The best of the best

Recommended Books

These are the top books that I am constantly recommending to friends, family, & clients
who want to personally grow & have better relationships.

Improve Your Communication & Relationship Dynamics

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What Makes Love Last?

by Dr. John Gottman , Nan Silver

Dr. Gottman has studied over 3,000 couples over the course of 30 years. He can predict not only separation but if a couple will be happy, with a 94% accuracy rate.

In this book he shares what makes love last and the pitfalls that lead to many relationships’ demise. He also gives you a communication formula & tells you how you can attune to your partner. 

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Men Are from Mars, Women Are From Venus

by Dr. John Gray

If you want to learn what words are going to work with your partner, as well as some of the deeper reasons as to why you are having conflict then this book is going to give you exactly what you need!

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Hold Me Tight

by Dr. Sue Johnson

Disconnection is very painful, and attachment wounds can keep couples in a sort of painful dance. Dr. Johnson teaches you how to change the music so you don’t have to keep doing the same dance. 

This book will help you navigate communication when it comes to attachment triggers & wounds.

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Attached: The New Science of Adult Attachment - How It Can Help You Find and Keep Love

by Amir Levine & Rachel Heller

There are many relational behaviors (coping mechanisms) that are a result from childhood, and sometimes a result of past of romantic relationships. Attachment theory explains why you and your partners behave the way you do, and why certain patterns seem to be stuck on repeat.

The 5 Love Languages: The Secret to Love that Lasts

by Gary Chapman

Falling in love is easy. Staying in love—that’s the challenge. How can you keep your relationship fresh and growing amid the demands, conflicts, and just plain boredom of everyday life?

Whether your relationship is flourishing or failing, Dr. Gary Chapman’s approach to showing and receiving love will help you experience deeper and richer levels of intimacy with your partner—starting today.

Personal Healing & Growth

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How to Do the Work: Recognize Your Patterns, Heal from Your Past, and Create Your Self

by Dr. Nicole LePera

If you want to understand why your nervous system is out of whack, why your brain keep those pesky narratives on repeat, and why you seem to keep having the same problems over and over again, then this is a must read book for you.

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Daring Greatly: How the Courage to Be Vulnerable Transforms the Way We Live, Love, Parent, and Lead​

by Dr. Brené Brown

Vulnerability is necessary for connection, love, and feeling fulfilled in your relationships and life. Unfortunately, fear and shame often stand in our way. Dr. Brown shows you how important it is to have the courage to be vulnerable and to show up differently.

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How I Got This Way and What to Do About It

by Dr. Sterling Ellsworth

We all have a real self who is capable of doing all sorts of things. The real you is both easy to love and deserving of love. Because of our childhood and life experiences, instead of living in our real self, we’re often living in a survival self. 

Often we try to fix this with externals, but it’s the internals that need fixing. And the best way that we can do this is by healing the past. If the past can affect the present, then why can’t the present affect the past? That inner child is waiting for you, your adult real self, to join them and give them the love supplies that that they are desperately needing.

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Homecoming: Reclaiming and Championing Your Inner Child​

by John Bradshaw

In this powerful book, John Bradshaw shows how we can learn to nurture that inner child, in essence offering ourselves the good parenting we needed and longed for. Through a step-by-step process of exploring the unfinished business of each developmental stage, we can break away from destructive family rules and roles and free ourselves to live responsibly in the present. Then, the healed inner child becomes a source of vitality, enabling us to find new joy and energy in living.

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Recovery of Your Inner Child: The Highly Acclaimed Method for Liberating Your Inner Self

by Dr. Lucia Capacchione

The Inner Child lives within all of us, it’s the part of us that feels emotions and is playful, intuitive, and creative. Usually hidden under our grown-up personas, the Inner Child holds the key to intimacy in relationships, physical and emotional well-being, recovery from addictions, and the creativity and wisdom of our inner selves.

Recovery of Your Inner Child is the only book that shows you how to have a firsthand experience of your Inner Child—actually feeling its emotions and recapturing its sense of wonder—by writing and drawing with your non-dominant hand. Dr. Capacchione shares scores of hands-on activities that will help you to embrace your Vulnerable Child and your Angry Child, find the Nurturing Parent within, and finally discover the Creative and Magical Child that can heal your life.

The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma

by Dr. Bessel van der Kolk

Trauma is a fact of life. Veterans and their families deal with the painful aftermath of combat; one in five Americans has been molested; one in four grew up with alcoholics; one in three couples have engaged in physical violence. Dr. Bessel van der Kolk, one of the world’s foremost experts on trauma, has spent over three decades working with survivors. In The Body Keeps the Score, he uses recent scientific advances to show how trauma literally reshapes both body and brain, compromising sufferers’ capacities for pleasure, engagement, self-control, and trust. He explores innovative treatments—from neurofeedback and meditation to sports, drama, and yoga—that offer new paths to recovery by activating the brain’s natural neuroplasticity. Based on Dr. van der Kolk’s own research and that of other leading specialists, The Body Keeps the Score exposes the tremendous power of our relationships both to hurt and to heal—and offers new hope for reclaiming lives.

Dating: The Right Way

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Mars & Venus On A Date

by Dr. John Gray

Have you ever wished for a road map to dating? Well, now you have one! Dr. Gray goes into what to expect at each of the stages of dating as well as the actions you need to be (practicing and) implementing. He really helps you not get ahead of yourself, and shows you how to have more fun & peace in the whole process.

Eight Dates: Essential Conversations for a Lifetime of Love

by Dr. John Gottman & Dr. Julie Gottman

Navigating the challenges of long-term commitment takes effort—and it just got simpler, with this empowering, step-by-step guide to communicating about the things that matter most to you and your partner. Drawing on forty years of research from their world-famous Love Lab, Dr. John Gottman and Dr. Julie Schwartz Gottman invite couples on eight fun, easy, and profoundly rewarding dates, each one focused on a make-or-break issue: trust, conflict, sex, money, family, adventure, spirituality, and dreams.

Spiritual Healing

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The Power of Now

by Eckhart Tolle

The book takes readers on an  spiritual journey to find their true and deepest self. By doing so they reach the ultimate in personal growth and spirituality: the discovery of truth and light.

In the first chapter, Tolle introduces enlightenment and its natural enemy, the mind. He awakens your role as a creator of pain and shows you how to have a pain-free identity by living fully in the present. The journey is thrilling, and along the way, the author shows how to connect to the indestructible essence of our Being, “the eternal, ever-present One Life beyond the myriad forms of life that are subject to birth and death.”

This book shows that only after regaining awareness of Being, liberated from Mind and intensely in the Now, is there Enlightenment.

Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child

by Thich Nhat Hanh

Based on Dharma talks by Zen Master Thich Nhat Hanh and insights from participants in retreats for healing the inner child, this book is an exciting contribution to the growing trend of using Buddhist practices to encourage mental health and wellness. Reconciliation focuses on the theme of mindful awareness of our emotions and healing our relationships, as well as meditations and exercises to acknowledge and transform the hurt that many of us experienced as children. The book shows how anger, sadness, and fear can become joy and tranquility by learning to breathe with, explore, meditate, and speak about our strong emotions. Reconciliation offers specific practices designed to bring healing and release for people suffering from childhood trauma. The book is written for a wide audience and accessible to people of all backgrounds and spiritual traditions.

Why Buddhism Is True: The Science and Philosophy of Meditation and Enlightenment

by Robert Wright

The mind is designed to often delude us about ourselves and about the world. And it is designed to make happiness hard to sustain.

But if we know our minds are rigged for anxiety, depression, anger, and greed, what do we do? Wright locates the answer in Buddhism, which figured out thousands of years ago what scientists are discovering only now. Buddhism holds that human suffering is a result of not seeing the world clearly – and proposes that seeing the world more clearly, through meditation, will make us better, happier people.